.....My question is: Would any of you forgive this type of lie, and still meet this guy? I have not responded to his email.
If you were/are interested in him otherwise, my advise would be to go ahead and meet him. He obviously thought enough of you to still be thinking of you 6 months later and want to make things right.
My divorce took 16 months from filing to finalization. It was over, emotionally, prior to even the filing (I would have filed much sooner, but was waiting for him to get a job... he surprised me by filing first, then I found out about his secret bank account... but no need for more details here). The last 7 months of the process was caused by the time it took me to get the house re-financed in the midst of taking care of the other financial details, while still working at a job that requires travel and raising two kids. It was NOT because I was still emotionally invested in the relationship nor because I was trying to salvage anything or get back together with him. Far from it. My HEART was divorced long before June 2001. The documentation of the divorce didn't catch up until October 2002.
So I can fully understand and sympathize with where this guy is coming from. Since he has confessed this "sin" (which in my mind is a very small one), and come back around to you... obviously still interested... I would give him another chance.
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