Approximately six months ago, when I was a newbie to this online dating thing, I was very wary about the safety of meeting complete strangers from online dating sites, and before agreeing to meet any of the men that I communicated with online, I would do a background check on them. Surprisingly, I would say that 60% of the time, I would find out after doing the background checks that the men that I had almost met were still married. Now, I meet too many men to even bother to do a background check until I decide after I meet them after the first date to see them again, and only if I feel in my gut that something is not right.

There was this one guy that I communicated with maybe five months ago that I was interested in meeting. When I did a background check, I found out that he was still married, but he had already filed for divorce. When I asked him in an email if he was just separated, and his divorce was not yet final, he responded to me via a reply email that "everything with his ex was final." I, in turn, replied that in order to protect myself, I did a background check, and found out that he is still married. Even though it was disappointing, I refused to reply to his emails after that.

Last week, he sent to me the following email:

"When you first asked the question, I struggled on how to answer it as there are two sides to it. There is the emotional side, which is the side I responded to and the legal side, which I was silent on. In my heart, my marriage ended in spring 2006 when we separeated and I learned that it was over. There wasn't any attempt to reconcile, which lead to the initial filing of documents. A settlement was drafted in fall 2007. I don't know why the legal side took as long as it did other than signing the final documents wasn't a high priority in my ex's life. A better way of answering your question would have been to include both parts, but I was afraid that you would not want to meet me. My plan was to disclose the legal part once we got to know each other better. Since you first asked the question, everything has been signed, delivered to the court and a dissolution was entered in September. I hope this helps clarify everything."

My question is: Would any of you forgive this type of lie, and still meet this guy? I have not responded to his email.