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writergal others have said this but I will say it too.
First it is impossible to judge "chemistry" electronically. Not until you have actually met in person can you determine if there is "chemistry". Therefore I recommend meeting sooner than later, in one to two weeks.
You also cannot build intimacy electronically. You build intimacy in person and while you may feel a rapport or fell comfortable with a person in a short amount of time you should not be feeling intimate with them until you have spent a good deal of time getting to know them. It does not happen instantly.
The ever present requirement of "chemistry" and / or attractiveness can only be judged in person and it is a two way street. And as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For the attraction to work you have to be attracted to your match and he to you. I will not address his tact or lack thereof as we only know what you say that he said. I have no way of knowing what he said or how he said it. But he was honest with you and told you that he was not interested in continuing on with building a relationship with you. Apparently you would have preferred that he end the date by telling you that he would like to see you again and then not contacting you again or not returning your e-mails or calls. That would have given you the opportunity to come here and post about how he had poofed on you.
I must say that from your posts in this thread, you either have a complete lack of understand of how dating works, unrealistic expectations for dating or you are a "princess".
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