I have a good life long friend who has more past marriage and baggage problems that I can count on several hands, and he has no job and is not particularly attractive, but he gets date after date with the hottest women, and all the women he meets line up and want to marry him. He has never been successful in school or his career, but he has always got the women since he was a yound teen, and he has lots and lots of experience with women. I know lots of men who are a lot more attractive and financially successful than him, and they cannot get a date. And they always are asking me how my friend does it.

I am another one of those people who was focused on good grades, being successful in sports, and being successful in my career. I never found or made the time to socialize or date women when I was younger, and I think I am paying for it now. I actually in a way envy the so called "loser men" who get all the women. I have very little material baggage, but I think my lack of experience with women from my younger years is hurting me.