I have been on this site for only 3days and I don't know. I sent questions to guys and I am still waiting for a reply. How long should I wait before calling it quits.

Yeah I know what you mean, I'm still waiting for my replys too, been over 15 days for me. :/

my husband and i were matched on 1/23/07 and married on 8/26/07. I obviously haven't been freqenting eharmony and didn't even know there was a discussion board...much less a success story discussion board. I joined in July of 06 and didn't get a lot of matches right away. I quit in August and then renewed in December because I was bored over the holiday. I got a lot more matches the second time. Even though it can be discouraging when you don't meet your soul mate in the first hour of signing up....it is way less discouraging that speed dating or match.com in my personal experience!!!! I am 35 and a doctor. The only men I met before eharmony worked at the hospital and the last thing I wanted was to try to havea relationship at work! It is hard to meet people anywhere else when you work 60-80 hours a week!


Seriously, give it time.

It's easy to get discouraged, especially with all the upbeat tv commercials and online advertising.

To be truthful, it (the eH matching service) is only as good as the pool of clients.
*********** as relative to your propensity to invest your time/emotional commitment / learn and adapt and love beyond faults ***********
n certain geographical areas and demographics, the possible matches are rather thin on the ground (I'd venture that over-fifty males are pretty well under-represented relative to females). I think I had to wait two months for any matches at all.
**********if / when this happens, broaden your acceptable attributes, you (like I was ) may be pleasantly surprised ********

It's a numbers game, and if you have the money to pay for a long enough subscription, you might eventually win.
*********IMHO beats the he77 out of "shotgun" (no idea what they are like) dating **************
Being open-minded but retaining some standards is a tricky balancing act, but patience (and money) can deliver some quality matches (along with the "what were they thinking?" ones).
****I think those are inserted just to keep us laughing******

For me: six months, around 100 matches, two contacts, one in-person meeting.

******* 4 months, several hundred matches, dozens of OC, 3 actual meetings/dates: For dates/meetings, I was very particular. This does not mean that I did not enjoy the heck/ learn incredibly about myself by going through so many GC's.

As for not posting in "Success Stories", a good guess is that many are having soooo much fun / love they overlook this part.

Been dating Laura about 5 months (closed to new matches after 3 weeks, closed completely after 2 months and a 13 day trip with my girls to Alaska).

Although it seems like a match made in heaven, it was made on EH.

As is with life, it is a function of what you put into it.

EH is just one venue for finding possible dates/matches/partners. It works better for some than for others.