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I like this, it's like a wish list thread.
I'm 41 and live alone in my own place. No kids and now too late to start. I'd say instinctively I'm not that traditional about gender roles but I'm fiercely independent, have always had to be and now prefer to know that I'm relying on my own resources.
When dating I'd like some moderate persuing and protecting. I want to know that a man had it in him to look out for me and try to stop bad things happening. Also if he's keen on me then I'd like him to say it and show it. I'd like all of this traditional "manliness" to stop short of making me feel, in any way, pushed around or too uprooted. I don't want to feel like I've got to fight for my independence.
In a live in relationship I don't mind who does what. I'd expect to be with someone who's current domestic set up is like mine and is used to doing everything for himself (paying the bills, cooking & cleaning, laundry ect). I think I'd be entirely happy if we both picked the things we didn't mind doing and then divided fairly the things we both hated. Except for spiders. He must kill the spiders. If he is scared of spiders we will have to hire a cleaner to do it for us.
I'm looking for a man in the mold of my Dad. He is undeniably a man and has raised my sister and myself to be very realistic about the potential and limits of that role but at the same time he has never allowed us to princess it up or expected us to settle for less because we're women.
He has supported and encouraged us and our Mum in all that we have done and although the way my parents share out the domestic chores wouldn't suit me, the way they have respected each other as people seems way more important than gender roles.
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