In all likelihood you aren't attracted to every man in the world. So why would you consider every man not attracted to you to be shallow? Wouldn't that make you shallow too for not being attracted to every man?
That's why I don't like these threads. They're shallow in their own way because they limit themselves to individual criteria almost as if they're trying to create a trap. Attraction is not a simple function of weight vs. personality. If only it were so easy.
Jacquesne
I think the charges of shallowness are quite sad and pathetic.
I'm a big dude, but have lost quite a bit of weight. I also know that 20 pounds more and my weight will only be an issue with women who only really like skinny guys.
Do I feel they are being shallow? No, not at all. It is their perogative to choose to date someone they feel attracted to. Just as it is my perogative to have no interest in BBW.
The key to starting any relationship is chemistry. Physical attraction is an undeniable part of that.
Questions like "What is the shallowest you will accept?" are just bitter and a huge red flag to me.
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