As a heavy woman, I find this a bit offensive. Any man who just clicks right on past me because of my size is losing out on a great opportunity for a great partner. I am a hard working single mom. I am a great teacher. I am intelligent and a very devoted partner and lover. I am who and what I am and I make no apologies for it. If you don't want me because of my size, that is your loss.
What is the shallowest you will accept?
I'm sorry, I simply don't understand this mentality. I've been directly turned down by a woman because she is 5'7" and I'm 5'8" and so she'd be taller than me in heels. I've been turned down by women who won't date guys who are losing their hair. I've been turned down by women who don't like guys with chest hair. And I've been turned down by women who don't like guys in the military.
So what? Does their decision have anything to do with me? Does it make a girl shallow because she can't imagine being with a guy whom she can't run her fingers through his hair because it's cut short? Or a girl who assumes I'm a bad person because of my job?
Just the other day I had a girl in one of my classes completely shocked when I told her I was a Marine. She said she didn't believe me at first and asked me if all Marines were jerks. I told her some people actually chose the job to protect their country and not because they want to shoot guns and have the magic uniform that gets them in bed with every woman on Earth (a myth, by the way).
The majority of women I know are not attracted to me for one reason or another. All this means is that I can hang out with them as friends and not worry about it. I don't see any reason to see them as shallow people simply because they don't find me an attractive guy. And I wouldn't want them to force it.
Whenever I see someone being called shallow for not being attracted to someone else I always have to wonder who's more concerned with that issue...the other person or the person calling someone else shallow. If you're really happy the way you are then there's no reason to look down on others for being the way
they are.
In all likelihood you aren't attracted to every man in the world. So why would you consider every man not attracted to you to be shallow? Wouldn't that make you shallow too for not being attracted to every man?
That's why I don't like these threads. They're shallow in their own way because they limit themselves to individual criteria almost as if they're trying to create a trap. Attraction is not a simple function of weight vs. personality. If only it were so easy.
Jacquesne