In my opinion, I think both males and females we are very receptive to those things we want to hear, and very dismissive of those we know will hurt us. Maybe it is just myself, but I simply cannot hide away what I am feeling. As Paulo Coelho wrote on his book "The Alchemist", there is an universal language everybody speaks around the world and allow us to communicate with each other in unsuspected ways: it is called the language of enthusiasm. Females are - at least in my short experience - very perceptive, and pretending they need some advice in order to decode what a man is feeling about them is just playing around the idea they might have misunderstood his real intentions. You may want to call it an "involuntary or subconscious honesty". It is a question of personal responsibility to hear our inner voice or dismiss it, and it works both ways for men and women. Maybe the guy is charming enough to give him a second opportunity, but what are the chances he will honour that second chance when he has been clear since the first one? Why should we hurt ourselves so badly just to be sure of what we already know? Again, this is just my personal opinion and the way I feel it.