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I am sure most of you have stories like the following. I enjoy bowling, I am not very good at it, but I like going when I have someone to go with. So a couple of weeks ago I mentioned to my friend of female persuasion that we should go bowling sometime, expecting if she wasn't interested in that activity to say so. But she said sure and so Sunday we went to the bowling alley and played a few games. After we left, she started to say something but said "never mind", I eventually got her to say what she was thinking (because frankly, I find speaking ones mind to be very important). She confessed she actually hated bowling.
Have you ever done things you didn't like or tried food or drinks that you knew you would not like simply to satisfy the person you were dating rather than to speak your mind?
I am under the impression that I should always speak up. That doesn't mean if my partner wants to see a terrible movie or take me along as she shops for clothes that I am going to object because I believe any good relationship people make compromises. However, I wouldn't have taken her bowling as a date if I knew she didn't enjoy it ahead of time.
So have you ever not told a partner you didn't like something in order to make him or her happy? Why would you not be open about your thoughts?
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