In reading your post, this relationship seems out of balance, and you sound unhappy, or at the very least majorly frustrated. You seem to be working overtime forcing this relationship to fit your vision of ideal, while it appears as if he just slipped you in a vacant slot slugged "live-in girlfriend" and continued on with his life as usual. I could be wrong but that's the impression I get.

So, why are you with a man who doesn't share your concept of family life? Did you think if he was constantly around your family, he would come to feel what you feel for your relatives?

Why did you give up spending time with your girlfriends? Did he ask you to do this? Who did the cleaning and stuff before you moved in?

You seem concerned about his string of live-in girlfriends. Didn't you know this was his pattern before you moved in with him? Didn't you realize he was unlikely to change in this regard?

Why are you with a man you don't say anything positive about?