Well, I was having dinner last weekend with my friend and his girlfriend. Told them I like working out and want to stay with it to get ripped. My friend's girlfriend started on this tirade because she'd read that more men get one night stands when they are all toned up and turned on her boyfriend and asked if he was working out to move on to greener pastures. Geez, she was out of control. My friend is very happy with her as far as I know and is just working out to be more healthy. Told him just to reassure her, do something extra nice or whatever to get her under control. My friend had asked her if she'd like to join and she said no.
Anyone here ever heard of a couple breaking up over something like that? I thought my friend's girlfriend would be happy for us. You know something like, "I'm so proud of you two."
Yes, actually I have. A couple of them in fact.
In one, the man joined gym and got into amazing shape, ripped from here to Adonis. He was spending considerable time at the gym. When his longtime GF complained about the excessive time commitment and the changes it was having on their relationship, he refushed to cutback his gym time. They broke up.
In another one, the woman joined gym to help lose weight. It took a year, but she dropped like 70 pounds, then her gym buddies got her interested in bodybuilding. Her BF didn't like all the attention her body makeoever was bringing and wanted her to stop going to the gym so much and especially didn't like the bodybuilding. When she refused to cutback, he ended the relationship.
Now, I will say, it is highly possible that these two relationships would have ended at some point anyway, but in both the gym commitments were the last straws. But any major lifestyle change can move a breakup higher on the most-likely list, especially if it severely changes the dymanic and rhythm of a relationship, and the couple isn't strong enough to handle this sort of life-altering change.
As for your friend's GF, we don't really know what is going on in that relationship besides what you saw and your friend told you. The GF could be irrational and insecure or something else could be going on. What is certain is that she mishandled the matter badly by airing it all in public, i.e., in front of you.
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