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While I can appreciate what the OP said about not wanting to frighten guys off by telling them about having been a nun, I also think that any SO is going to want to know something that is that big a part of your past. Believe me, I know the reaction you're afraid you'll get - the look of surprise, then the "I haven't used any bad words, have I?" followed by an evening with someone who seems very nice but slightly uncomfortable. Or worse, an evening with someone who seems to have decided to use the occasion to score brownie points with some more religious relative, i.e., "I'm gonna tell Mom I went out with a..." well, an "ex-nun" in your case; "a United Methodist minister" in mine. I'm afraid I endured a few of those on the way to true love. My situation was somewhat different in that I'd already ended a marriage before going into the ministry, so I didn't have the "inexperience" part of the quotient, and I did not feel I could put off mentioning that I was a minister since "so, what do you do?" tends to come up very, very early in dating! So you learn to deal with it....and to deal with the fact that not every guy is going to handle it well. On the other hand, for some of them, it won't be as big a deal as it is to you. Eventually though, you're going to have to share it with someone you've been seeing for a little while. It was a big part of who you are, and we all want to be loved for who we are, right?
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