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If I was in your place, "Soda pirate..." I may think to myself first whether this guy is really whom I want to be in a relationship with, weigh out why would i want to be in a relationship with him. In the process of weighing out, I would try not to rely much on the feeling I feel for him, but rather try to focus on the other logical matters, like how well do I know him, do I think we would get along well or compliment each other, etc. I'd also look at the possible conflict due to his characteristic and ask myself whether we'd be able to compromise.
If after reflecting, I still think he is a good candidate, then I'd be honest and ask him where he is thinking/intending us to go, is it just to be friendship or relationship? I might also mention that my concern regarding his inconsistent signals. Is there anything that he is still not sure about? Is it that he might need more time to decide the next step?
He might :- think that he does not know me that well yet
- have bad experience with the last relationship, hence he is now scared and/or not ready yet to enter another one despite his feelings, interest, strong desire to start somehng wth me
- be aware that there are things in me that he is not sure about
Those are just the possible things, but communication (words), is very important in this situation.
I wish you all the best! I hope it helps.
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