I'm relativaly new to eHarmony, but I've had my share of matches and gone through a couple of open communications which I ended up feeling uninterested in after a short duration.
Now I've found someone that I can't help but shake the feeling of being the 'one'. But the kicker is she lives about 3.5 hours away from me. From her Profile Info and the few Open Communications I can honestly say I'm genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, yet as anyone would agree the distance can seem daunting.
I mean I haven't even given her my Phone Number yet. :-/ I just don't want to mess up this chance. I get a dark feeling that if I give my number too soon that I would seem desperate and that alone might be enough to shatter the chances right there. My friends (that are girls) often consider me a hopeless romantic type. And I can't really deny that nor shun the idea of it being true, I mean I own The Notebook and Pride and Prejudice movies and have read the whole Twilight Series; and yes thats often made me the guy to poke fun at when hangin with the guys. I'm more emotional the most guys as my family says.
That being said, the first thing that pops into my mind is where could we even go for a public meeting/date? Now thats simple enough to find out on my own. But then I'm also thinking where could we live together if we did end up in a relationship? Thats the one that scares me. I mean I shouldn't even be thinking that right? But I am. And I usually avoid any long distance relationships, yet here I am driven to pursue one.
Also I don't want to take her away from what she knows ( and undoubtably loves) but I don't see it working any other way, since I'm in a job I can almost gaurantee I will be in until I retire (thriving family business).
Is something wrong with me or is this natural when you find someone that could possibly be your soul mate?
So I guess the main questions are:
When is it ok to give your Phone Number? In terms of time
When is it ok to ask for a public meeting/date? In terms of time
Am I frightening myself to soon about stuff that should come up much later in the possible relationship?
Any other advice would be great and yes I know I'm a babbler but thats my nerves for ya.
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The only advice I can and will give you, is what my Mom, who is 89 years of age told me, " tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life, don't sweat the small stuff, life has a way of working itself out!"
Do what you feel your gut tells you too! Go for it, what's the worse that can happen, you end not connecting and move on! Life is really an adventure, if you let it happen! Better to have done, than not have done!......
Ladyjuju