I agree that people should post current photos of themselves - no argument there. But the fact that you found a woman that you say is interesting and attractive but you couldn't be 'truly interested' in unless she loses weight, that's just downright wrong. Is it because you would be embarassed to be seen with her as is, or what? Sounds to me like you should just move on until you find your 'right-sized' woman and let her find someone who will appreciate her for who she is.
Why is this wrong? When people are looking for a mate, they are not just looking for a friend but someone they are attracted to and want to have sex with. One cannot control their attraction, it just IS. And I don't blame them. I have nothing against fat people as people but to expect people to accept them and be *just* as attracted to them as to slender folks, that is just not realistic or fair.
By the way, I am female and slender. I love the inner qualities of my boyfriend...he is intelligent, noble, funny, sweet, etc BUT if he was too fat when I met him I'd have to say "no". Sorry, I don't want to make love with a fat man. And it's understandable...it does not make one superficial...we like people who have a balanced life, eat normal portions and are fit.
It's just how things are. If fatter people want more love in their lives, get their eating/exercise lives in order. It's much better than arguing that things aren't fair.
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