Well, personally, I do not feel the need to adhere to anyone else's business model. And I fail to see how it would be a conflict. My suspicion is that part of eHarmony's business model is luring people from this free site over to the paid side - its a marketing tool.

As far as the the paid part of eHarmony being effective an effective dating tool...I am stumped on almost a daily basis why most matches are sent to me - I have checked, rechecked, and redone my settings and with few exception found very few points of compatability with my matches.

Thus, I migrated here. And I will not apologize for seeming harsh with some of my opinions - I do believe in self reliance and truly feel that the answers to so many questions are self-evident - if people would only stand up for themselves.

I know I scare off potential dates/mates with this attitude - but would rather wait for the one that can truly hang with me rather than settle.