Just about every message board I've been to has a section to fill out a profile. eHA does allow a more detailed profile than some, but I don't interpret that to mean they're hoping people get together, though that can certainly be a benefit.
Exactly. Plus, it would be a conflict with the paid site (and their entire business model) for this to be designed as a free-for-all type free dating site. There is nothing specific about eHA that encourages matching up and dating. Given that there are many, many more women than men here, and that most people don't include a photo on their profile, the structure just isn't here to make this an effective dating site. The matches that do occur are in spite of those limitations (just as they take place on other non-dating sites where people interact).
With respect to the questions asked by posters.... Please keep in mind that all kinds of people come here to use this site, many of whom are hurting and confused. Some are young or inexperienced; others are stepping back into dating after the end of a long marriage or as single parents whose children have now grown. Some are well-educated and others are not. Some are sophisticated and others naive. Some are emotionally healthy and others are suffering from depression or another mental illness. Some have friends and family upon whom they can rely for support and others are more isolated or don't have someone to whom they feel they can turn for help or they don't want to disclose their problem to loved ones. Some are very bright and others not so much...
Although some of the questions that people ask may seem like "duh" to others, and repeats of questions that have been asked by countless others who came here before them, for that poster the question is a real one that is about their life and about which they are seeking input (or, sometimes, validation...). It costs us nothing to view them with respect and respond to them.
If you do find that you are reacting to people's posts with disdain or irritation, and don't feel that you can respond respectfully, then simply resist the urge to post and move on to another thread. 
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