One big problem with most of the matches that I've communicated with, is that they list hobbies and interests in their profiles that are either completely false, or are actually more of a "wish list".

Time and again I've seen profiles with an apparent mutual interest, I'll ask about it, to try to get the conversation going, and the reply is "well, I'm not really too interested in that" or "yeah, I really ought to get started on that". As if she's waiting for a match to come along and change her life to something that she perceives to be better. I have no time for that. I'm not looking to create a life for someone.

So if, for example, you are heavy, and you say you're interested in fitness and exercise, you'd better be prepared to back it up. Get started on a program of your own and be ready to talk about it. Do some basic reading and get going!