This is in reference to a past relationship. Why would someone come on to you and make out with you a lot pretty early on and continue to do this a few more times, but still not yet having sex (because you were slowing things down). And then all the sudden tell you good bye.
This is a past relationship that I wasn't necessarily counting on lasting for many reasons but was still kinda surprised. In the past when I have had men pursue me they usually did not give up until AFTER we were sleeping together not RIGHT before. I was nice to this person but it had to be a zero pressure relationship for him because I just was not visualizing it being long term so made no demands or whatever you want to call it a all.
By the way this is not my typical scenario. I am a rules girl if you know what that means.
But I find men very confusing.
Maybe he was as confused as I am reading your post. You were making out with him but were slowing things down. You "weren't counting on the "relationship lasting for many reasons". You were "nice to this person" (whatever that means) "but it had to be a zero pressure relationship
. . . because I just was not visualizing it being a long term[.]"
My interpretation of all that = no sex short term but no possibility of a long term relationship. He may have just realized he was wasting his time or thought you were using him (if (and only if because I don't have the info) he was paying for the dates).
"I am a rules girl, if you know what that means." Which rules? There are so many.
I disagree with the posters who suggest that he was just after sex and bolted because he didn't get it. I'll concede that it's possible. It's also possible that he was looking for something more long term and serious. You were providing neither.
I agree with Wiseman. Forget the silly rules. Try sincerity and assertiveness instead. If you have boundaries let the guys know.