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D_Lion

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Join Date: Aug 2008

Posts: 14,287

Many things are not so much about “right” and “wrong” as about fitting into who you are, and doing what attracts the audience you’re seeking.

Personally, I do not do dates as short as “drinks” (and it seems a majority of women will not have alcohol on a first date, the others only one drink with a meal), and I would never go to a movie. Though short coffee dates seem popular.

It’s hard to assess from the limited data, but some possibilities are that in 3 or 4 dates you’ve given enough data about your career or class that doesn’t meet her requirements, or something in your personality / values / sense of humor doesn’t mesh.

My first dates are long dinners minimum, and my second is usually a full day. Whatever, if what you’re doing is not working, try some different things; evaluate the outcome and experiment further.

- July 13th, 2009, 08:06 pm