Yes, I believe that grown ups (waited to marry, until "adult", not 19 or 20 years old) do feel as if we have failed when the marriage is over. I am 6 years single now, and have dated very little. It took me several years before I had the courage to date. The rational part says, "Ok, I did everything I could and was committed to the marriage", but your heart still says "Hell, I failed at the most important relationship God gave me" And if you have kids-pile on a ton of guilt.

I always thought it was different for women;we are typically more nurturing and end up raising the kids and taking care of everyones emotional needs-the men just do the leavin. I know, sounds bitter, and I don't mean it to, just callin a spade a spade!