Well what an interesting discussion!! I have just had a big AH HA moment. All has become clear. I have had a lot of matches, mostly with no photo, which annoys me intensely. From what I have been reading I can now tell that most of them are non paying members. There have been more matches on the free weekend and 9 out of 10 matches do not respond to icebreakers or attempts to communicate. I have been confused as to why they do not respond or make initial contact. Now I think I have figured it out. I am a new member of 1 month and signed up for 3 months but will not renew my membership once it has expired, for this reason. I feel like I am wasting my time and they are wasting my time too. I am not happy with how this is allowed to happen on this site. It seems to me that paying members are doing all the hard work and the non maying members are along for the free ride which starts to mess with our heads when we can't figure out what is going on. It is just as well that my confidence levels are good and I haven't been taking it personally. A big thumbs down for the free weekends.