Hi, SRB:

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going thru. My son has suffered with anxiety as well...The hair pulling is not uncommon, especially with girls with autism...

Google and then talk to your doctor about Risperidal. The FDA did a study on autisitc kids, with some impressive results. I was hesitant to put my son on it, but it has changed his life...he is, for the first time, comfortable in his own skin...his obsessive behaviors have decreased dramatically...language has picked up, better concentration...

Hang in there...and make sure you get some respite time too...it makes all of us better parents...

Dana