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D_Lion

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Join Date: Aug 2008

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It almost doesn’t matter; if he gets afraid and bails, at least you have a definitive result.

As I see it, you could suggest something that has a timeliness associated with it, such as a performance or sporting event that will be in town on a certain date. (There is some risk in how you communicate this; as the woman you are probably hoping he asks you out. When you propose an activity, it is really your role to be hosting him; therefore if you do not state it that way, he may hear that you are looking for him to buy an entertainment you selected. I would react negatively to that.)

I would force this issue, by asking for his number, or offering yours and asking him to call, or by writing that you are ready to meet. I think the best option is to meet midday on a Saturday, where you will have open ended time together … if “shy” is the correct assessment, I do not think the “20 minute coffee date,” that many people seem to favor, is a good idea.

A lunchtime meeting, in an environment which allows for subsequent walking about or other activities chosen at that time, is how I would do it.

- July 4th, 2009, 08:57 am

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