Instead of focusing on the negative, I focus on what he presents as his values and what he values; life, family, friends, job, hobbies, education, community, exercise, his priorities, and what he commits his time to, as well as his life experience, and how he communicates himself. I also look for balance and depth.

One of my matches 5 things he can't live w/o were: family, friends, health, romance, and love.

His entire profile resonated w/ me and in my opinion was a work of art in its profound simplicity. I initiated communication, where unfortunately we stayed in EH email for 5 months where he was most responsive. Out of 750 matches over 6 months, I chose to committ my time and energy in getting to know him, as to me it was most respectful of each of us. While it was frustrating, disappointing, and time consuming, I do not regret it, as it's how I chose to value and respect a potential partner.

Despite my giving him my full name, personal email, and phone number--he never did call. I was ready to meet him w/in 2 weeks of OC and was most willing to travel to meet him or meet on neutral ground. There were several red flags throughout, which I did not ignore; I was patient in giving time time for him to reveal himself.

The most important quality I have listed is [emotional] availability and presence. Perhaps I should revise this to include physical availability as well--lol.