I would want a man with his stuff together as an equal just as I am. Do men only want women that need to be rescued emotionally and financially, like they need to be fixed? That is so not who I am. Being independent and not just needy is a good thing in my mind. I know men need to feel needed but to what extent? In my common sense thinking, I would imagine a man would want an independent woman that works hard as I do. Another thing is that I always felt that its a plus that I don't have kids. Do men prefer women with kids?
Men want to feel needed. It's true. As long as you have a facet of your personality that he can support you can do whatever else you want. Personally I prefer women who are emotionally invested in relationships because it makes me feel secure. At the same time I require a degree of independence on her part. I can't be holding her hand showing her how to do EVERYTHING. It's nice to share the deep things, but the shallow stuff has got to be handled by yourself.
I wonder if that makes sense... It's sort of backwards. Since people tend to share themselves shallowly at first and build up to the deep stuff... Truthfully by that point I'm so fed up that I've lost interest. It's best to jump in with both feet and give all the effort you can, alternatively you can drag it out and waste time hedging your bets. It might hurt you and the other person in the end but without risking how can big bets be won?
You don't need kids.
To summarize, I think you are great. Don't change yourself to fit with anyone, but realize that they will be doing the same thing and you'll need to compromise a lot more than a meeker woman might.