eHarmony Advice - View Single Post - Women who say they're looking for a "REAL MAN"

twinfaceGem Post #48 July 3,2009, 7:25pm

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You know, I read the first line and thought 'here we go again, I'm going to have to explain that I don't want someone to rescue me, I just want someone to love me."

But, after reading the rest of the post, I really do agree with it. Maybe I truly am an old-fashioned sexist pig, but I do appreciate a man that is stronger and more emotionally stable and able to take care of himself financially. And I'm sure he appreciates that I am concerned about his well-being even when he says he'll be okay (because we know you don't always mean it when you say that).

To me, a Real Man is one who is a good person and is reasonably comfortable with who he is. Someone who is willing to do the tough things because they are the right things. Someone who takes care of the people he loves (as I would do for him). My dad was a Real Man, and he's a tough act to follow, but I know they are out there because I've read their posts on these boards.

Now, I have to admit to being attracted to Manly Men. To me, that's a different thing. A Manly Man is probably a little old-fashioned in his view of male/female roles and works in a typical male occupation (firefighter, construction). I think every woman needs a Real Man, but my personal preference is for a Real Man that is also a Manly Man.

Its a responce like this in responce to Oregon coast guy that gives me that warm and fuzzy feeling about looking for my special somone.
Out of all the posts I've read it was the best.
Real man advice We have evolved as a society not as a human race 90% goes back to basics and woman project what they want in men. Think about it when all the smoke clears its about babies a woman has to take care of a baby even if we are gone...for years...whos going to protect them? Sure, I know plenty of woman can do it them self but thats not the point...to be your man you want to know he can do it better then you.
Even what a woman writes is a great insight to who they are and what they are looking for. You just have to actually care about getting to know them to see those things and like it was said before...ask.
And for mr homestead or homely guy with the anger...woman test men for their own protection at which ever level they see that as, get past that and a woman will go to her death to give and provide and make us men happy....thats just what they do. So man up and find your place in the world and go take it on.
Crying about the issue instead of trying to resolve the issue with in yourself says you need a mother not an equal.