If it's important to you, you should leave it there. There is no need to justify.

What I can't understand is why would you close that woman, or take it as an insult. Her statement just summarized your entire post. I don't think it was meant as an attack. I can imagine myself saying exactly the same thing, and it would have all the positive connotations in the world because I'm looking for exactly the same.

I would pursue that woman, if I were you. But if it doesn't work out, you can always pm me