It seems to me that when one uses the term "real" before a term it gives a derogatory tone and is too open to interpretation. Probably better to just spell it out and avoid alienating someone uneccessarily.
Very good point. This is similar to what was being discussed in another thread about how people talk about what they're not looking for such as "I'm tired of players." When I see something like that in a profile I move on quickly.
As far as spelling something out I'd like to see something like the below appear in a woman's profile:
I'm looking for a man who accepts responsibility and is a leader. I want someone who leads by including me and taking my input seriously but not someone who feels they have to figure out what I want and then do that to keep my approval. I want a man who listens attentively but not someone I can manipulate. I want someone who isn't afraid to disagree or to tell me no. If I give some type of implied or direct threat that he either goes along with me or there will be less sex then I want him to be strong enough to stick with his principals anyway. I want a man who hasn't bowed down to all the pressure from the media, feminists, and every other force that seeks to rob them of what really makes them men and instead wants to turn them into sniveling whimps who say what they think women want to hear while all the time only really caring about themselves and what they hope to get out of it.
When I see that then I know they are looking for a real man.
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