I've had 2 requests to re-open. One was about 8 months old! I looked at his profile and decided against reopening.

The other one was a guy I closed quickly as I recognized his photo... he was someone I went out with once from another site. I could tell he was "into" me, but I felt absolutely no attraction to him. He asked me to re-open. I didn't.

As for CoastalMom's situation, I agree with D_Lion. Give him the benefit of the doubt on the e-mail thing. And you aren't necessarily "bottom of the back up list." A lot about meeting someone is timing. If it's not right for BOTH, it's not right. Just assume that for whatever reason, the timing wasn't right for him the first time around.