I'm independent enough to not have to ever worry about supporting myself, and to not find myself in the position where I have to opt into a relationship in order to survive. I find fulfillment in the professional element in my life; it supplies me with a unique measure of accomplishment, intellectual stimulation and security that I can find in no other way. But that is only one relatively small part of who I am - a part that I do not necessarily assign any gender to. Then there is that other part - the softer, more feminine part of me, that appreciates what only an intimate relationship can give me. That's the part of me that needs to be giving and craves giving in return from one very special man. It is what allows me to enjoy being purely female and savoring what is purely male; rescuing one another from an existence essentially devoid of gender.

No one wants to be one-dimensional. And life is rather boring if it is lacking in contrast. If I want to be giving I have to have something to give. When a seesaw is not in balance one end or the other is obviously going to be sitting in the dirt. When we find ourselves in that lowly position we can do one of two things: we can either depend totally on someone else to exert pressure on the other end, or we can simply flex our muscles, straighten our legs out and stand up. But it's actually safer for both if it is a coordinated effort between the two. I enjoy doing what I do professionally and doing it well. But that is not who I am. It's nice to come home at the end of a productive day and change into something a bit more comfortable.