You might consider 2 things here: first, you were matched by eHarmony so there ought to be some commonality; however, the second thing to consider is your gut feeling. If you do feel like you are at the end of the list...honor yourself and keep your distance. Coffee, a glass of wine, maybe even dinner, have a good time, but, see this man clearly. Go with your gut instinct regardless of what his excuses are. Honor you.