I'd like to throw out a comment. Some people have been saying that it's not the fact that a woman is successful and educated that makes it hard for her in dating, but that it must be something about her personality. But I'd wager that successful women both think and act differently, necessarily, from women who are not.

I'll give an example. Most people, especially men, like to feel admired. It generally will take more to impress a successful, educated woman. I'm 29, make a 6 figure salary, went to top schools, and find that I am not automatically impressed by lawyers, doctors, other professionals. But many of these men expect to drop the "I'm a _____" bomb and to see your eyes light up. I'm not salivating over a meal ticket. And I don't act like it. And I don't want to pretend that something impresses me when it doesn't.

However, I do admire many men in the military (esp. Marines) and men who have their own successful businesses, even if they are blue collar.

Haven't you all seen the Sex and the City episode where Miranda has no luck when she tells the guys she's a lawyer? But she gets laid after she tells the guys she's a flight attendant?

All in all, my sense is that many men do not prefer a truly successful educated independent woman because they may feel it's more work to impress them and/or keep them.