Yes; this is a real woman as well. It transcends gender, yet b/c of our gender we were given many valuable qualities and we are meant to share them. I wouldn't necessarily consider it an expectation, yet I very much appreciate and admire a man's physical strength; I don't possess it. I don't "know" what female qualities men appreciate and admire, but what we each have contributes to the whole.
I know that someone like D_Lion is going to pop in and say boobs. But I agree with you it is the whole not the individual items. For me one "whole" may be just as attractive as another "whole" yet the outward appearance between then two has no similarity.