here is my tuppence:

It is not about saving a woman I feel, but finding a partner who adds to the whole. For some that may mean looking for someone who needs a man to help find a way through life, but for others it may be about finding an equal or even someone to help them.

For my part I look for someone who is together in their life but maybe seeking anew direction or a new challenge with someone else.

As for kids? Well that must be an individual matter - we had a saying in the Army : a PotNoodle family, just add dad. As I get older the idea of having kids about become more acceoptable and I am changing my opinion (slowly) from never- to may be I guess it all depends on what they were like !