i have the same thoughts running around in my head. i am no stranger to dating and find it quite difficult in locating a match who is not intimidated by conversation that goes beyond nascar. the few men who do say they want to date educated women that own their own home, car and pay own bills are only interested for a short time...until ms. destitute comes along and needs to be rescued....and then ms independant is left lonely again. this cycle had become so frustrating for me that i stopped dating for the longest time.
I'm just the opposite of the men you're talking about. I have a hard time finding well educated and entrepreneural women to date. I have ended dates early b/c I could not get the date beyond simple pop culture conversation. I love to date doctors, engineers and business owners because they generally know what's going on in the world. My last real date (we are friends but no connection) was with a internal medicine physician and we had the most interesting conversation about population control, space medicine, physics and other topics. I love stimulating conversation, but I have such a hard time finding it. Don't give up, the type of men you are looking for are out there. Just have to look hard for us.