I don't think there's anything wrong with following traditional dating etiquette. I think the biggest problem is that everyone assumes that everyone else also follows those traditional customs, and when their date doesn't adhere to them they get cut off.


Many of the "traditional" dating rituals (i.e. man pays, man asks, man holds doors) I still believe to be widely practiced, so there is a general expectation that any person you date would adhere to them. Otherwise, it really should be something that is shared or discussed between two dating partners.


One custom I never really knew about until very recently is that when wine is ordered, the man is supposed to refill the woman's wine glass as it nears empty. I usually don't drink wine with my food, so I had no idea. But one of my female friends recently told me she didn't accept a second date from him solely for this reason. She said it was primarily because he ordered the wine. I have only had one date in recent memory where we ordered wine, and my date did the refilling. Nothing was said about it.