i once had a man pick me up for a date and instead of coming to the door, he honked his horn. i'm kinda stubborn so i just stayed in the house, and then he called from his cell phone all upset "I'm outside waiting for you!"
i told him i knew he was outside, i was waiting for him to get the hint and come to the door like a gentleman.
i dunno. i'd like to see a return of manners in general.
See...your example is one of modern but nasty behavior.
I think manners, in general, should always rule. However, when I hear the phrase "old fashioned" all I think of are good manners and effort in one direction > from the man to the woman. I know, this sounds unfair, but that's what I think. Usually, its formed in a statement like this; "
I have old fashioned values. I expect the man to chase me, hold open the door, stand up when I enter the room, ask me out, call me, take care of me, etc." But I never hear old fashioned behavior that goes the other direction (other than not having sex with him).
There is definitely "Old Fashioned" behavior that a woman should exhibit in return (besides not having sex). When a man opens a door for me, I always say thank you and smile. It's important to acknowledge the courtesy that he has just given you. The same goes with having a car door opened for you. When a man does any of these actions, I was taught to accept them with grace.
Besides a polite thank you, I was also taught to reciprocate in kind. I have opened doors for men but, when a man has opened a door for me, I will pass through it and politely wait for the man to follow instead of running ahead as if I'm the Queen of Sheba.
Whether it's asking a date in to your place for coffee after dinner or just having any guests over for coffee or drinks, as a hostess you serve your guest first before yourself.
I could go on and on. These aren't really "Old Fashioned" ideas as much as they are a matter of courtesy and civility, remembering that the person you are with is, at that point in time, moreimportantthan yourself.