Here's my concern:


If I do all these nice things during the dating phase, and then I slack a little bit during the marriage am I going to hear:


"Hey remember when you used to do XXX and YYY and ZZZZ? Why don't you do those things anymore? Do you still love me? Is the magic still there?"


So what if I don't do any of these things during dating, and then a few years after we're married I start doing all this little stuff. Now all of a sudden I'm getting massive credit for "finding my romantic side" and she's telling all her friends about it, and the next thing you know I'm the next best thing since sliced bread!


This plan is almost crazy enough to succeed. Don't you think?