I read your post about the cologne. What I got from it was that you weren't actually being that old fashioned. You in fact, did a very progressive and empowered act. I loved it. However, the guy in turn, did some things that you think is old fashioned. I don't see him taking your arm and walking you back to your hotel as old fashioned. I see this as a natural andcivilthing to do. Not chivalrous but civil.


I personally don't have any use for "old fashioned" behavior. Most of this is loaded with unfair and unequal notions of one person being weak and subservient. Those things that in our modern world that you might interpret as old fashioned are simply common sense things that good people do with other good people. They transcend time. Of course this guy was going to be nice to you! You showed your interest. He was attracted to you. He wanted to reciprocate. I see myself as a very modern guy. But I'll take a woman's arm when I walk with her. I'll make sure she gets inside her house safely when I drop her off. Is this a contradiction? No. Its civility. Being "modern" doesn't mean to be nasty.