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hope2see Post #201 March 14,2009, 4:33am

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jayjay,529172 wrote :

hope2see,528730 wrote :

Leave the cheater to his or her cheating ways and find someone who will not waste your precious time.Find someone like yourself who is not a cheater and be happy.I'm going to.

Sorry about your painful situation. I'd just point out, if it was as simple as "find someone who will not cheat" you'd have done this in the first place (as would everyone). People have personality issues, problems, do bad things etc. There's a mix of good and bad in everyone (including you and I)....and I don't think it's ever possible to enter a relationship without the risk of pain.

Thanks for your simpathy.It is simple to find someone who does not cheat.I was married before and to a good man who did not cheat and he did not lie to me daily. I also know about pain and I am a risk taker.My first husband died.So after much pain and grief,I started over again.The problem is that I married someone who lied to me from the beginning and is still being dishonest with me. I am so sick of the drama.I know there is a mix in all people,but I'm beginning to think that there is also just some people who are just evil.It makes me not want to ever be around or trust anyone. I know I'll get over it one day.I'm just angry right now.