Really new to this service! But, I have to say there's plenty reason to take it much slower online. When you meet someone in person at the park,or bump into them in line at a cafe,I'd say more than half the talking is in body language, and in getting a sense of the person's demeanor, credibility, and honesty of look, as well as style of speech, and ability to smile, feel confident, etc. None of that is really available online, but what I think is particularly fun about this websiteisthat being forced to communicatethrough email serves as afabulous filtering (yet flirting!) mechanism - for me, a guy who can write and demonstrate his ease with language and make a verbal joke: that's way cool! I'm having a whale of a time with a match, and I'd have to say it's because it feels so old-fashioned and romantic to get to know someone slowly and verbally. This might be a tad contentious: but ladies, isn't his inability to communicate/ express oneself the No. 1 difficulty for us gals?!?! So, lovely Reddevil999 who can articulate herself so well and is probably an interesting, busy lady - if he can't bother to write more than a line at the courting phase, think of what he'll be like, later?!