Ok, thinking like a guy here. He has already taken the time to fill out the eH 29 diminision profile and other questionaire information, then he has gone through first questions, can't stands/must haves, open-ended questions, and made it to OC. At that point he is ready to meet face to face and not continue being penpals.


I understand the desire to try and get to know more about a guy but after going through the eH process you have already learned a lot about the guy. Meeting him for coffee/hot chocolate will not put you in extreme danger, you just take precautions. Make sure you have a trusted friend who knows where and when you are meeting and that will call and check on you if you do not respond by a chosen time. Whenever I start dating a new guy I also give his phone number and which site(I use 2 dating sites) he is from and to my close friend and she checks on me via text to make sure I am ok. If there ever comes a time that she needs to she has the information needed to give to the police.


Yes, meeting the guy can be scary but even after emailing and lots of phone calls the guy may still me a nut. I speak from experience because I have had that happen where the guy went a little off and I was advised to get a restraining order. Do I judge all the guys by he's weirdness NO, I just continue to do things in a way which is safe.


Do not let the news people who like to scare everyone keep you from meeting the nice guys that are out there.