You are right to wait to meet someone until you're comfortable, but if you're really serious about this process then you also need to be prepared for a face-to-face. I met my now boyfriend of 9 months through this site. We went through the OC process, emailed a few times, graduated to talking by phone and then a few weeks latermet. We discussed it early on that meeting was in the cards but we did take our time until we both felt comfortable. I guess what I'm saying is offer alternatives to him if you're scared to meet right away...use real email (a dummy account like someone else suggested because I did it too) thenmove onto phone calls at least. We learned so much about each other during those phone calls that I had no doubt in my mind he was a wonderful person with whom I would be safe finally meeting. We still met in public the first time though. It's hard to hide "crazy" so phone calls relieved my mind rather quickly!!