As much as you care for him, unless you're willing to take on a life of being the only adult in the family...run in the other direction! As someone else here said, fast forward a couple of decades to a picture of you sitting in front of a pile of bills after work, trying to figure out how to make ends meet while your hubby slumbers peacefully in the other room.... Shouldering the earning reaponsibility and making all the important decisions because your partner won't step up is a lonely place to be. If he doesn't want to change, you can't make him change, and the "love of a good woman" doesn't do the trick like the movies say =(