I dated a guy who cheated on me. I found out and I did the same thing, I gave him the boot! But, I felt in my heart that I wasnt done with him. So I let him crawl & beg his way back to me. I ended up taking him back but as the saying goes, he cheated on me again. I was heartbroken that he could even go to another woman after all we shared. So, I kicked him out again. Same story, my heart didnt want to let him go yet. So, he begged & pleaded even more this time, promised me it would never happen again and, I took him back. I know people thought I was crazy but I followed my heart. We talked about everything: why did he stray, what could be fixed, why did we care to stay together. We became even closer. But...


In the end, I couldnt fully trust him and I struggled with the thought if I could live the rest of my life with that doubt. It only took one little incident to seal the deal. I walked out the door & never looked back. I still love him and it hurt like hell. But I knew it was the right thing for me. I guess, I think that we all need to live our lives and make our own mistakes. There is no cookie-cutter answer that will solve all your problems. If you are true to yourself, you know what you must do. I did what I felt was the best for me and Im glad I did. We started to talk after a few weeks and both agreed that we loved each other but being together just wouldnt work. Now, my ex is one of my best guy friends. We talk all the time and he gives me the best advice on guys!


Im not saying that thats how your situation will end up, its up to you on what you do. Still, I want you to know that trust is not given, its earned. He needs to earn his trust back and you need to let him. If you two can work through it together, it will make you stronger. It made me & my ex stronger, even though we ended up just being great friends. Be honest with yourself, if you try & you just cant do it, let the marriage go but keep the friendship. I think its worth a shot to try and save your marriage but dont become a doormat! You need to realize that you dont need him to live a happy & fulfilled life. No matter what happens, you will survive. And never let anyone make you think that you dont deserve that Golden 50 & white-picket fence. Its out there, even if its not with him.