The choices for closing are really bad....but here are a few reasons I have for either not responding to guys who ask to communicate, or I close them and choose something that is less hurtful, and sometimes "other"

1. One of his questions asks about my relationship with my family, or how much I excercise, or my financial habits
- while these are important things, I find them obtrusive at first, and like I am being judged too soon -- I find the family/relationship with parents thing especially wrong. If a man is going to judge me by my parents I know we have fundamentally different views on life.
2. He has no pictures, or worse -- he has failed to fill out his profile completley, or he has chosen mostly one-word answers -- I need to know a bit more than that off the bat and know that he is really serious and there is something interesting about this person.
3. Obvious misspellings and grammar mistakes (I'm talking big mistakes as I'm pretty lenient here)

These are all reasons I would close in the very first stage...

I have closed a few times after reading the must haves/can't stands and I get turned off if the guy seems overly focused on organization/personal habits and less on things I consider very important like fidelity, strong character, etc.

I also pretty much automatically close people that give their phone or e mail right away, or they want to fast track but have no photo etc.

hope this helps!

ps. yes if I could fill in the blank on the closing, I probably would!! but I think eharmony may be doing a service to people by not offering that.....we are all strangers and should not be allowed to randomly damage the self-esteem of others because of our personal standards!