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Having raised a couple of girls I know that girls of that age can have low self esteem and can be socially shy, especially if they are uncomfortable with their looks. Maybe they have had their faces break out or have a bad hair day, blah blah. I'm sure going to another town to a big shindig where she didn't know anyone there could be challenging. Then factor in her worries about what the boys would think of her or the other girls whose turf she had invaded. Add the factor of being actually seen with her family and you may have a child who would rather stay home that face the stress of the situation- whether it is just perceived or real. Sometimes it is just better to leave them at home ( depending on age - 15 yr old should have been fine ) then create all the stress and maybe ruin it for the rest of the family while trying to cope with her mood. In my opinion, grounding or otherwise punishing a child for being afraid or overly shy only creates resentment and bitterness because you are not trying to understand them or be sympathetic to their feelings or terrors.
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