I agree...its a bit much if its the first message into OC. I dont mind asking me for my personal email because that makes sense (Ive been timed out of eharm a few times from writing for too long, its pretty annoying, plus all that log in stuff...though I'd prefer if he waited a few rounds to ask me)


For the first time in a long time (I should probably take this topic to another board but this is just anecdotal) I am interested in 3 matches that I am OC with all at once!! I really like all 3 of them in different ways and might do that whole ...dating multiple people at the same time thing...for a little while anyway to see. ANYWAY. One of them, has dropped a few "points" (I don't really tally points..) because he's asked for my phone number right out the gate in OC. I'm not scared or uneasy about him. I think I still like him. Its just that I'd prefer he demonstrate his communication skills a bit in writing first... I don't feel a real "connection" enough yet to want to talk to him on the phone. I also might feel a bit nervous talking to a stranger (I'm not a phone person and consider phone numbers at first only neccessary to make plans or say if I 'm gonna be late or give him directions or whatever!)


I'd like to see a little more effort on his part to get to know me instead of instantly wanting to call me cause he thinks the process is just too arduous.


Like I said, I'm not a big phone person anyway, so thats part of it. But I just don't like the rush since we havn't developed a real connection yet.